“What are you going to do with yourself?” On Answering that Curly Question, by Sarah Wilson

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‘What are you going to do with yourself once all the kids are at school?’ – Sounds like an innocent enough question and one that I’ve been asked rather frequently in recent times. Sometimes it’s a statement rather than a question, such as ‘You won’t know what to do with yourself!.’ I put this question in the same basket with other curly questions that people often encounter, such as ‘Are you still single?’ ‘When you are going to have kids?’, ‘Are you going to have more kids?’ and ‘Have you lost weight?’ But ‘You won’t know what to do with yourself’ has been said to me a few times recently, and not wishing to sound too defensive, I usually say something along the lines of ‘There are always plenty of things to do.’ Because that’s what I’ve found – even though two of my children are school age now, it’s still really quite busy. It’s perhaps not quite as intense as when they were little. It’s a bit cruisier and I have a bit more down time, however mornings before 9 o’clock are frantic, and afternoons after 3 o’clock are full. Though we don’t do a whole lot of after school activities, the engagements increase as they get older, as does the homework. I have a preschooler at home on Mondays, Fridays and Wednesday afternoons and I have a little down time on Tuesdays and Thursdays. But as it so happens, my preschooler is about to start school in September at the ridiculously young and tender age of four and a quarter. I’m not too happy about it. In fact I think I’ll go and have a good cry into my coffee when she starts school, but I know that she will be fine, and I’ve taken the approach of when in Rome, do what the Romans do. She herself, can’t wait to go to school! Thankfully the curriculum involves a large component of free play in the first year.

If you’ve been a stay-at-home mum with children reaching school age, how have you found that question? I know that it’s probably said in jest, but sometimes that question does feel like a pressure. And there is a lot of pressure for mothers to get back into the workforce. I feel like it’s acceptable to be at home with children when they are preschoolers, but society expects you to get a job once they are school age. Yes I’d like to get back into the workforce in a part-time capacity, and of course it will help the old bank balance, but there are weeks that I wonder how that is going to operate in practice. My husband works twelve hour days. Being in a new country, the children have come down with one illness after the another in the last few weeks, and I wonder how I would manage this if my husband and I were both employed. There are also twelve weeks of holidays a year to think about.

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What are you going to do with yourself?: On answering that curly question.

Where Do I Start? Tips for Moving Abroad with a Young Family By Sarah Wilson

Sarah Wilson writes about moving from one side of the world to the other with young children and gives her “top tips” on surviving the process.

Where Do I Start Well hello there. I know I haven’t blogged for an awfully long time. But it feels really great to be blogging again. Late last year saw the publication of my first book ‘Heart Matters in Early Motherhood.’ You know they say that if writing a book doesn’t kill you, promoting the book will. Ain’t that the truth.

Oh and did I mention that during the book promotion process, our family also began the process for relocating……..to the other side of the world. Yes a week ago we moved from New Zealand to Britain with our three small children. You see we always knew that we would move to England. In fact, people used to chuckle that we had been talking about moving to England for many, many years. Frustratingly, as it turned out my husband had to complete an enormous application that took 18 months to complete on top of full…

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